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I agree on your perspective regarding comparing your children to others. It might seem encounragement on your part or just a casual remark but the impact it has on children is quite the opposite. Like what Xiao Li said was correct. When the parents started to compare them to others, the kids will feel they are not good enough and started doubting themselves. They would feel insecure and that’s the start of an unhealthy development. Parents should stop comparing as a form of encouragement for their children to do better. This can also be one of the reasons why people are competitive (ofc, in a bad way). This is probably the reason why Qiu Meihui kept on targeting Ying and wanted to win her in every possible way. Winning makes her feel “better” thinking she’s superior to Ying or simply put “good enough”