A woman's period

In the name of Chaupadi,

there is still no consciousness in the distant village

of my village Since becoming known as a 'singer', she has had the opportunity to give her voice in many songs, not only professionally, but also against the bad practices and superstitions in the society.

Maybe because he is a victim of the 'Chaupadi' system that is prevalent in our society, it is as if he is expressing his inner pain when he gives his voice to the song related to it. While Bedna's songs are kind, Sarata may find them 'sweet'. However, every song I have sung about the Chhaupadi system is filled with pain and sorrow. Those are the cries of many sisters and brothers from far away and Karnali who have come out in my voice. The lyrics sometimes refer back to their own past, and it's even more heartbreaking to remember that it's still a real pain for the sisters I was born with.

For a long time I myself was in the land of superstition. For a long time, the fear of going to the abode of goddesses during menstruation (menstruation) was in my mind. But now I have put it out of my mind.

While I was studying at school, I used to stay apart when I was menstruating. Although his ancestral home was Thuma in Budhiganga municipality of Bajura, he was born and brought up in Bhimdatta Municipality-7 Haldukhal of Kanchanpur. Parents went to India from Bajura during employment. After returning from there, around 2040, he climbed the mountain and settled near Kanchanpur.

Big family, number of sisters too. At home, I saw mothers and sisters sitting in a small corner of the house when they were menstruating. Everything seemed normal then. Grandmothers, mothers, aunts, brothers-in-law, sisters all used to sit in the corner of the lower room of the house when they were menstruating. My mothers inherited the Chhaupadi custom. Sisters suffered. I bought it too. In my society, it was a binding 'legacy' inherited by women from generations, which was unimaginable to give up. Like other girls in the society, I also felt that if it happened, I would have to stay isolated like this. No one is allowed to touch. Cannot eat/drink milk curd.

Education up to Class 10 was completed at the local Janseva Madhyamik School. By the time I reached class 10, all my friends had left. But I didn't. Even after the completion of 10th grade, when I did not have my period, my family, neighborhood, friends all started saying - Is it okay? It created such a psychological panic in my mind that when I saw two or four people talking together, I felt like I was being interrupted. I started to panic myself. He used to question himself too - why didn't I get married?

The year of giving SLC which is considered as 'Iron Gate' for students. It was the month of August. I went to a nearby fair ground to see the Gaura festival. It felt like water was flowing over the body. I winced. I hurried back home. I did not know when I reached home with so many things playing in my mind.

After reaching home, blood suddenly flowed from the body. Guess you're on your period. did not go to school I told my sister that she had her period. Others cried during menstruation. They must have been afraid. At first they would hide in shame. At that time, it was customary to hide when menstruating for the first time. I myself went into hiding. I cried where I went to hide.

My sister told everyone in the family, 'Rekha ta bahi sari (menstruation).' I started to panic a lot. The family stayed away from home for 6 days. It was the year of SLC. So I went to school regularly. However, there was a situation where I told someone at school that I had my period.

Even when going to school due to menstruation, I had to sit in fear. Which had an effect on studies. Nothing would have happened if the girl friends found out, the watching moment was cut with fear because of the fear that the boys would find out. Until that time, there was no toilet in our house. There were hardly any toilets in the villages. He had to go to the nearest cesspool to urinate. It was very difficult to defecate in kholsakholsi during menstruation.

The school had a joint toilet for male and female students. There was no water. The best option would have been to bear it as much as possible even if it was covered in urine.

Far from home, isolated and lonely. On top of that, is it the fault of being born as a girl due to the behavior of the family? I thought that.

There will be only one dish and clothes. Eat on the same plate, in the same bowl. There is only one water container. Those who came to deliver food from home used to drop food from above. It was placed on the ground and patted. Some old clothes were given for the first time of menses. I was given the same. I entered the kitchen only after eating wheat.

Menstruation stopped again for a year. Before, there was a fear of not being the only one after all menstruation. Once again, after being absent for a year, another worry struck. That fear also followed for a long time. I got my period again after a year. Then I became regular. I used to collect some old clothes. I used to use the same old clothes as 'pads' when I was menstruating.

While studying for graduation, I worked as a news anchor in Radio Kanchanpur. Even then, I did not touch anything for 4 days during my period. About that. The place where the kitchen, god and house deities were said to be untouchable. That was done

He was interested in singing. Gradually I came to music. After he started singing Deuda songs popular in the West, the consciousness started to develop. I also reached a little beyond the place where Chhaupadi was planted. After seeing the new society, different practices, the fear of the mind gradually weakens