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The thing is he feels she's scared of him. but she's scared of him just the fact that he can break her more than the Bai family did. But he is scared and doesn't know it, he is scared that falling in love will make him lose his senses and is trying at all cost force the love he already had for her as interest o think. Hell this book is makin me become a psychologist
Xueyue is afraid to fall in love to a man who would not love her back and will have other wives due to her past experience, as for the commander he has a hard time to express himself and he would choose the wrong words but he really cared about her but he thinks love doesn't matter I think it's because his father has a lot of wives